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Mormonism is a fraud

-As my web blog evolved, I removed the original political information found here to another location but retained this link because of unrelated comments attached to this posting.

Later, after many people express to me their transition stuggles out of Mormonism, I decided to post information on how I left here, to help others -



I built this web blog page because a lot of people I met on Mormon sites seemed to be going through the same steps that I went through, leaving the church, and needed the support and fellowship that I never had:

I wish live journal was around when I left the church (mid-90's), the transaction was horrible for me, and very lonely, people need each other.

Leaving Mormonism is such a big step and large transaction:

Support groups and people who have taken the same path as you are taking right now


People who are at the same point as you may be

(See the discussion below with some other ex-Mormons and doubting Mormons)

A site for those who are Questioning their faith in the Mormon Church "And for those who need support As they transition their lives to a normal life. We are not affiliated with any religion and we do not advocate any religion. 220+ Stories of ex-Mormons"

How can I find other former Mormons to talk to?

Post-Mormon Identity, the steps (from lj user menemni)

http://atheists-of-utah.org/

Quest for the Gold Plates: Thomas Stuart Ferguson's Archaeological Search for the Book of Mormon This book talks about how one of the most prominent Mormon archeologists lost his faith, but still stayed in the church, becoming a closet doubter.

Doctrine of the church criticized


The premier source that made me realize the church was not true is the scholarly quarterly journal Dialogue: A Journal of Mormon Thought . The entire collection is available at the USU library, and I read every issue back to its start in the 1960’s. I spent three times time studying the church than doing homework when I was in college.

A less scholarly magazine/journal, which has more essays and articles which focus more on social issues instead of doctrine, is Sunstone.

Introduction to the book By His Own Hand Upon Papyrus: A New Look at the Joseph Smith Papyri, the most devastating book about the church ever written, the entire book is available online on this site.

Mormon Polygamy: A History Very scholarly, evenhanded work (Found in Deseret Book), discusses how Joseph Smith would propose to married women.

2think.org (This guy took the same path I did in leaving the church)

Richard Packham, former Mormon who is now an atheist

Studies against the church from some fundamentalist Christians


Funny


You know you’re an Ex-Mormon when....


Filling the resulting Void in your life


After I left the church, their was a “belief void” in my life, which needed to be filled by something Some people fill this void with other Religious beliefs, I filled it in with Science.

Carl Sagan's books, such as
The Demon-Haunted World, Science as a Candle in the Dark really helped me realize the supremacy of Science over religion.



A History of the Warfare of Science With Theology in Christendom/2 Volumes in One (Great Minds Series)
(Amazon site) This is a classic on the subject showing how historically Science always wins, yet religion always continues despite being proven wrong.

This book is available for free to download here:
Project Gutenberg (downloads slowly)

http://www.skeptic.com/

Penn and Teller’s series “Bullshit” on Showtime, the first few seasons are available at Netflix.com

Economist: Evidence that psychopaths are born, not made

Below is yet another article that flies in the face of religion's idea of "sin": "Evidence that psychopaths are born, not made".

If a person is born to be a psychopath, just like a person is born to be a homosexual, indeed, if much of who we are is chemicals in the brain, doesn't this completly contradict the concept of "sin" and "choice" that most of Christianity embraces? If you are a psychopath from birth and your psychopathic rages are controled by your genes, where does "sin" and "choice" come in? Doesn't a backwards belief in "sin" actually hinder society from treating of these mentally ill?

As Carl Sagan said:
"It used to be believed that every event in the world-the opening of a morning glory...was due to direct microintervention by the Deity. The flower was unable to open by itself.God had to say “Hey, flower, open.” [Today]...because we know something about phototropism and plant hormones, we can understand the opening of the morning glory independent of divine mícrointervention...As we learn more and more about the universe, there seems less and less for God to do." --Broca's Brain: Reflections on the Romance of Science by Carl Sagan, page 334-335

Of course, as history shows, Christian apologists, will first attack these findings, then Christianity as a whole will, slowly, over generations, find someway to bend their beliefs to fit the overwhelming facts. [For an excellent book on the history of Chrisitianty blocking important technological and scientific advancements see A History of the Warfare of Science With Theology in Christendom, above]

Economist, May 26th 2005

Evidence that psychopaths are born, not made

RESEARCHERS at the Institute of Psychiatry, in London, are not shy about tackling controversial topics. One of them, Terrie Moffitt, was responsible for studies that showed how different versions of the gene for one of the brain's enzymes resulted in different predispositions to criminal activity. Another, Robert Plomin, found the first plausible candidate for a gene that boosts intelligence. Now, Dr Moffitt and Dr Plomin have been helping two other researchers, Essi Viding and James Blair, with an equally high-profile study—one which asks whether psychopaths are born that way, or are made so by their upbringings

That, of course, is rather a crude way of putting it. After decades of debate, biologists have come to understand what was blindingly obvious to most laymen—which is that rather than being shaped by nature or nurture, most behavioural traits are the result of an interaction between the two. Nevertheless, one or the other can still be the dominant factor. And the study in question, to be published in June's edition of the Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry, suggests that in the case of psychopathy, the genetic side is very important indeed.

The four researchers have drawn their conclusion from a study of twins. The twins in question are on the books of a long-term project known as the Twins Early Development Study (TEDS), which has been following several thousand twins since their births in 1994 and 1995. Among other things, many of the twins in TEDS have been assessed both for a tendency to bad behaviour (“conduct disorder”, in the argot of the field) and for the display of what are referred to as callous-unemotional traits, such as a lack of feelings of guilt after doing something wrong, or not having at least one good friend. In adults, callous and unemotional traits are symptoms of psychopathy, and those who display such traits in childhood frequently keep them into adult life. The assessments were done by the children's teachers, whom years of experience have shown are more objective and accurate than a child's parents.

As is well known, twins come in two varieties: fraternal, in which the individuals have half their genes in common, just like ordinary siblings, and identical, in which the individuals have all their genes in common. This means that behavioural traits with a large genetic component are more likely to be shared by identical twins than fraternal twins. Conversely, those traits with a large environmental component will be shared by identical and fraternal twins in equal measure. Applying appropriate statistical techniques to the actual amount of shared behaviour observed allows the relative contributions of genes and environment to be worked out.

Based on the teachers' assessments, the researchers identified the naughtiest 10% of the individuals in their sample—in other words those with severe conduct disorder. They then subdivided these children into those with psychopathic traits and those without and asked, in each case, whether an individual's twin showed bad behaviour, psychopathy, or both.

Their analysis showed that bad behaviour without psychopathy has relatively little genetic component—less than a third. By contrast, four-fifths of the difference in behaviour between the general population and children with psychopathic traits seems to lie in the genes.

All of this raises interesting questions. On a practical level it suggests that bad behaviour needs to be handled differently in different children, and will be much harder to eradicate if associated with psychopathic traits (though that does not mean that parents and teachers should not try). On an intellectual level, it asks about the origins of psychopathy.

Though the genes in question have yet to be identified, this result suggests they are too abundant to be there by chance—in other words they are being kept in the population by natural selection because psychopathic behaviour confers a selective advantage. If it does, such an advantage probably pertains only when psychopaths are in the minority (a state of affairs known to biologists as a balanced polymorphism). But it does mean that far from being an aberrant behaviour, psychopathy may be disturbingly normal.



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[info]albertsons_hobo
2004-12-07 08:36 am UTC (link)
Okay, this has nothing to do with what you posted here, but I just read your post in Misfit Mormon, and. Wow. I don't really agree with you on the homosexuality thing, and I didn't get a chance to read the article, because I'm at school and there are web blockers and such... But anyway!

Your bit on different thinkers being rejected is so true, and it's exactly how I feel about things right now... and it's something I'm struggling with like crazy... And so yea. I admire you for breaking free. Because I am trapped in this.

suffocating in this thick air of tradition
everyone is blinded by their fathers' artificial light
chit-chats full of empty depth
stale ideas, freshly stated to mask their rot
ignorance is bliss;
for they know not of their cages
they accept their keep
"What could be better than to accept my mother's cage?"
fuck it all
resistance is pointless
I will rot behind these steel bars of conservatism

...just something I wrote.

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[info]albertsons_hobo
2004-12-07 02:44 pm UTC (link)
It is not important your destination, but the journey. It is not important the answer but the question.

I never thought I would meet someone who feels the way I do.

Awesome.

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homo thing....
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-07 02:58 pm UTC (link)
"I don't really agree with you on the homosexuality thing"
Read the book I mentioned, it is really good. It will give you some different view points.
"Peculiar People - Mormons and Same Gender Attraction"
Did you read the web page on the Kinsey scale? Fasinating stuff.

I don't know what to think about homosexuality, I beleive it really is a nature thing, but as the article I mentioned said, the scientific jury is still out on this. But for most religious people, it doesn't matter what science says, their mind is already made up....

The more I read your poem the more I like it..you have a talent.

If you are happy in Mormonism: please stay. If you are not: why stay?
As I mentioned before, UNLIKE Americans foreign policy ideology, no one is dying if you stay a Mormon, in the bigger picture it really is not that important, no one is really hurt either way.

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Re: homo thing....
[info]albertsons_hobo
2004-12-07 06:28 pm UTC (link)
no one is dying if you stay a Mormon, in the bigger picture it really is not that important, no one is really hurt either way.

Well yeah... but most everyone in my life -family, friends, teachers, etc.- are all dependent on the thought of me being a perfect Mormon girl. My dad left the church and it ripped apart my parents' relationship. I am almost positive they are going to divorce. My mom is always mopey now. My brother is on his mission now, and if he came back and I was not apart of what he just spent two years to better, well...

I will stop rambling on about my problems, haha... Just that, yea, if I ever get the courage to be myself, it's going to lose me some friends and family acceptance.

And I guess in the end it's all about weighing what's more important. Would I rather live as a hypocrite or be rejected by the people I love most, and, as long as I am in Utah, the people around me?

I don't know where this comment is going. Heh. I'll stop here.

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called a closed doubter
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-07 06:36 pm UTC (link)
It is called being a closet doubter...you are not alone...

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Appears like menemni also feels the same way.
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-07 03:16 pm UTC (link)
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It appears like menemni also feels the same way.

I think there is a large minority of people out there who feel like you, you just have to find them.

It is harder for those out of the mainstream to find each other because they do not have the established institutions to meet and socialize like those in the mainstream.

I wish I knew about chat boards like this when I left the church, I really had a hard time, and really felt alone.

Keep in mind that none of us, and none of the social, cultural, relgious, and government structurs around us are created in a vaccum. This means that your ideas are based on the reality around you, therefore their are others, probably a lot of people, who see the world as you do.

Everytime I think I have an original thought, I realize that someone else has already articulated it much more better, usually several hundred years before.

As I mentioned below, to menemni, read:
http://2think.org/religion.shtml

This guy took the exact same path as me, and maybe as all three of us.
Intense study
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Identity crisis
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burn out
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finding other beleifs and social circles to base my life on, including the Unitarian church (excellent church BTW)



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Re: Appears like menemni also feels the same way.
[info]emmapeel
2004-12-16 09:36 am UTC (link)
Um.. yes. I've already left the church, actually. My name's removed. It did rip my family apart... well, actually, THEY ripped ME apart, but I stood firm. According to them, I was hurting them by leaving "our" church... when they needed to realize that it is MY life, and I am choosing happiness over pleasing other people.

One brother tried to talk me out of it. He presented facts without backing them up, I presented facts that countered his facts--backing up my research, and he discounted my research saying it was all anti anyway (even though most of it came from church-approved sources, including the BoM). ::: sigh :::

Another brother asked why I couldn't have asked him any questions I had... because, of course, I can't possibly make such an informed decision on my own.

Yes, leaving the church is hard--if that's what you want to do. And, if it's REALLY what you want to do (I'm not promoting either way), then you shouldn't care what your family's going to think or say. It's your life, not theirs.

(Although, if you still live at home, and you fear you might be kicked out, I'd suggest waiting to make this life-altering decision until you've moved out on your own.)

(I've already read 2think, and I keep up to date on exmormon.org--for obvious reasons. I haven't found other beliefs that I'd follow tooth and nail... and right now, none of it's right for me. I'd rather practice no religion than be stuck in the same patriarchal order that rules Mormonism. I believe in a Divine Mother, whereas other Christian denominations do not. So... I'm studying still, but keeping my options open.) =)

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hey menemni
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-16 01:41 pm UTC (link)
Thank God finals are out of the way. I just finished my civil procedure class--after 36 hours working on it--I am a first year law student. I am in Texas, married to a Ukrainian (former USSR) and have a ten year old.

So you seem to be on the burn out stage, like I went through and the 2think.org guy went through.

Glad you found those sites before, they helped me.

I honestly don't know what to add to what you said, partially it is because I am burned out after 4 finals, but another part is that you seem to agree to everything I think...

Remember with your brother and family, you are not dealing with logic and rational thought. You are dealing with an ideology. Facts are used VERY selectively to bolster their beliefs that they already have.

I have a Mormon relative that can look at National Geographic, and praise an article about astrology which supports a comment that Joseph Smith made, but in the same EXACT magazine, ignore, or dismiss any articles about evolution. Cherry picking.

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Re: hey menemni
[info]emmapeel
2004-12-17 09:10 am UTC (link)
I totally agree--dealing with my family is like talking to a piece of rubber: it all bounces back at me.

Here are just a few excerpts from chats with my brother:

(He contradicts himself several times, and comes off as a condescending prick..)

"However, anything you say against the church is, and never will be true. We all very deeply understand the principles of the church and will not think for one second that anything anti-mormon is true."

"Don't get me wrong, we don't dwell or hold a grudge, we find it hard to trust you and engage in civil interactions after a lot of what you've said."
(I thought they didn't hold grudges?)

(This is my favorite)
"If you want to be in the church, you can turn not gay. It's happened before and people are happy. Being gay does not actually fall into theories of behavioral genetics. It may occur as a result of one's surroundings and circumstances, such as family, friends, geographical location, and other factors which can contribute to the altering of hormonal and physiological balances in the brain. It is impossible to be born gay. Scientifically proven."

"That book (The BOM) has never been refuted and never will be."

"your hostility towards the church makes what you say anti." (Even if I use the BOM to provide proof for an argument, it's still anti. Interesting "logic".)

Anyway, you get the idea....he's a complete moron. After that spiel with him, I got totally burned out. There's no logic or rationale to his arguments, and he just started to piss me off with his "anti" talk....especially when I used the BOM and quotes from GAs to back up my research. Ugh.

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Keep the faith
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-17 01:04 pm UTC (link)
Welcome to America,

As Bill Maher said on Larry King Live, "It's like half this country wants to guide our ship of state by a compass. A compass, something that works by science and rationality, and imperial wisdom. And half this country wants to kill a chicken and read the entrails like they used to do in the old Roman Empire."

As Isaac Asimov (1981) said:

...It is religion that recruits their squadrons. Tens of millions of Americans, who neither know nor understand the actual arguments for - of even against - evolution, march in the army of the night, their Bibles held high. And they are a strong and frightening force, impervious to, and immunized against, the feeble lance of mere reason....

If your brother wanted to believe that Jesus is coming soon, as our ancestors have believed for the past two thousand years, and our descendants will believe for the next two thousand years, there is no harm in this. No one dies when religious folks decide to follow chicken entrails.

But when your brother goes into the voting booth, as all of our shared Mormon culture does, Mormons overwhelming vote for Republicans…

…and they historically have blindly supported an American government which has killed millions of people in 50 years, and even now, has killed and is killing over 100,000 Iraqis.

These “Christians”, these intellectually indolent lemmings, are the very worst kind of hypocrites, and lay shame to the very ideals of the Biblical Christ.

CNN just posted this article:
Bush looking at freezing domestic spending

Bush, after inheriting a huge fiscal surplus, increased the deficit faster than any other President in US history, now, he wants to freeze or cut all domestic spending….

….The exception? “Defense and domestic security"

I just got the book What’s the matter with Kansas?

The book tries to answer the question:

Why do so many poor Kansas people vote against their own economic interests?

The answer religion.

There is no logic in these people’s decisions, as there is no logic in many of the things the religious do. You cannot rationally sit down with these people on many subjects, because there is no logic in their decision process, they are basing everything they do in life on “chicken entrails.”

As I think Stalin said, (I am paraphrasing) “An idea can be reasoned with, a belief is better taken out and shot.”

I am going to transcribe several pages of the book on my web blog later. : ) Yeah for Christmas vacation…I have a lot to “fun” things I have been dying to do which I can do now…

Travis


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Why Christians support war so readily
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-17 01:22 pm UTC (link)
This is my e-mail comments to a religious conservative Mormon, an introduction to the CNN transcript about chicken entrails:
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I was thinking about my last comments, about why Christian Religious people support war so readily, when the Biblical Christ was such a pacifist.
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I think it is because of three reasons:
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1) Religion tends to support encourage obedience to the state.
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2) Religion teaches people to be obedient, to generally not question and obey
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3) Religion paints a very simplistic view of the world: black and white, evil and good, which politicians tend to grab onto and exploit.
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Needless to say, this Mormon conservative and I are no longer speaking--the conversation got to hot, and I came to the conclusion that you can't reason with an ideology. Not a complete loss, I learned you can really push a conservative’s buttons by saying two simple words: “Bush lied

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Sites to help you realize you are not alone at all.
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-07 03:30 pm UTC (link)
Also check out:
Recovery from Mormonism EXCELLENT 220+ stories of ex-mormons.
http://www.exmormon.org/

Why I Left the Mormon Church
http://home.teleport.com/~packham/whylft.htm
From the webpage:
http://home.teleport.com/~packham/


http://atheists-of-utah.org/

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I like your old pic better
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-17 12:55 pm UTC (link)
I liked your old pic better

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I like the old picture better
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-17 01:06 pm UTC (link)
I like the old picture better...

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Re: I like the old picture better
[info]albertsons_hobo
2004-12-18 12:30 am UTC (link)
Which one?

I got sick of the cliche emo scarf picture. Haha...

Dinosaurs are so much better :).

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if you are interested....
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-22 01:46 pm UTC (link)
http://www.livejournal.com/community/politicalbridge/

THE OFFICIAL LIBERAL/CONSERVATIVE BRIDGES TO UNDERSTANDING PROJECT
AKA Adopt a liberal / Adopt a conservative

Hey I got an idea.

Simply because I need something to do to engage my mind this Christmas break since I won't allow myself (and my wife won't allow me) to buy Starcraft again.

I pick a book: any book, which I feel most strongly represents my political views.

You pick a book: any book, which you feel most strongly represents your political views.

I buy YOUR book on Amazon, you buy MY book where ever. We read a chapter of each, and then report on what we think.

We only read one chapter (or x amount of pages), and promise not to read any further until everyone else has caught up.

My book I have in mind is big, so I would be willing to read as many Conservative books as required to read the same amount of pages as you guys would read....

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Off Topic
[info]emmapeel
2004-12-07 01:59 pm UTC (link)
I've seen you post in misfitmormon (I sort of "lurk" there, as I'm an exmormon myself).

Anyway, I thought you might be interested in this: Grant Palmer to be Ex'ed

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Mormonism is sort of a non-issue for me now.
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-07 02:30 pm UTC (link)
Mormonism is sort of a non-issue for me now.

Ever read ? :
http://2think.org/religion.shtml

I took the same path as this guy, I think many people take the same path...First they are consumed by the subject, there is a hunger inside, and they spend all of their free time studying,

But this fire inside their souls cannot be continued indefinatly...so eventually they burn out, and stop reading anymore.

These people (which I count myself as one) eventually go onto other subjects...find new friends, and build new support groups and social networks. This is what happened to me...

What is sad are those people who never quite "get over" mormonism. I have this protestant friend who is very anti-mormon, and he stays in Utah, trying to actively convert mormons to his beliefs.

I keep telling him that if Mormonism disappeared tommorow, he would face a BIG identity crisis because what he has fought for so strongly against for years would no longer be there... He is very unhappy and seems to be in a rut....

I don't know where you are in your own "spiritual journey". Please share.

My interest in foreign affairs is also wanning, especially after Kerry lost. Plus I dont have time to study like I used to because of law school and family obligations...

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Re: Mormonism is sort of a non-issue for me now.
[info]emmapeel
2004-12-16 09:45 am UTC (link)
My spiritual journey is... stagnant, for now. I'm always learning more, but I just don't care enough anymore. I think my family caused the "burnout" that I now feel.

I recently read "One Nation Under Gods" by Richard Abanes, which for a while fueled my need for more information. Now that need is dwindling, and I'm becoming less interested in the facts of the history (as I pretty much know all I can possibly know), and more interested in the personal stories.

(For Christmas, I'll be receiving Emma Hale Smith's book, and "Under the Banner of Heaven". Should be some good reads.)

I don't care too much about finding another faith to replace Mormonism. Having a religion just isn't that important to me. Not right now.
So....I'm essentially stagnating. Waiting for Christmas, so I can get my books, and possibly get interested again in the knowledge of it all. Until then, though, I'll revel in my burnout....it's a much-needed sense of apathy. =)

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Enjoyed the article
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-07 02:36 pm UTC (link)
Enjoyed the article--I can see why the Mormon church does this...I would do the same thing if I were an apostle. These people are a REAL theological threat.

Are you in Utah?

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Re: Enjoyed the article
[info]emmapeel
2004-12-16 09:48 am UTC (link)
Anyone who can prove that certain doctrines are false... and can prove that certain events never really took place are theological threats.

I'll personally never read his book because I think it'll be a bit biased (coming from the "inside", and all), but I'm sure it does shed some light on a lot of the church's history (that most people don't already know).

No, I'm not in Utah. I lived there for 9 months, which was enough for me.
I'm in California.

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if you are interested....
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-22 01:48 pm UTC (link)
http://www.livejournal.com/community/politicalbridge/

(We have chosen books, but are still open for suggestions)...

THE OFFICIAL LIBERAL/CONSERVATIVE BRIDGES TO UNDERSTANDING PROJECT
AKA Adopt a liberal / Adopt a conservative

Hey I got an idea.

Simply because I need something to do to engage my mind this Christmas break since I won't allow myself (and my wife won't allow me) to buy Starcraft again.

I pick a book: any book, which I feel most strongly represents my political views.

You pick a book: any book, which you feel most strongly represents your political views.

I buy YOUR book on Amazon, you buy MY book where ever. We read a chapter of each, and then report on what we think.

We only read one chapter (or x amount of pages), and promise not to read any further until everyone else has caught up.

My book I have in mind is big, so I would be willing to read as many Conservative books as required to read the same amount of pages as you guys would read....

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[info]thecause
2004-12-07 07:32 pm UTC (link)
Seems you got slightly popular from the post on [info]misfitmormon. I am confused sometimes from what you say and what you do. You told one of the individuals that you are done with the Church, yet have had some great interactions with [info]misfitmormon. Is it because the people of that group are questioning as you once did and can relate? I can not moderate your journal. Nor do I hope to. If you want to post anti then you can. I just am lost on your logic on why you continue to participate if you are already gone from it.

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hey bro
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-08 01:06 am UTC (link)
I will respond to you personally via email...

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decided to post here instead of personally...
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-08 01:23 am UTC (link)
Hey bro. Are you okay? your posts on your own personal website are troubling. I have no clue what I can do. None.

"Seems you got slightly popular from the post on [info]misfitmormon."

How can I compete with gay sex though?
There is absolutly no way I can compete with THAT.
NO way I am going to have 114 messages.

Actually, the only thing good that came out of the posting is meeting two other interesting former Mormons (or soon to be former Mormons--posts above), and maybe helping people, who are struggling with breaking away from the church---I liked the girl (above) poem, that was cool.

I started to realize though, other than that there is no reason to post the "open minded" post, I find most of the people's comments typical, run of the mill, what I expected when I wrote it--maybe the best thing to come out of it was a kind of personal therapy--that is part of what journal writing is all about right? I had all of these thoughts racing around my head which I wanted to share with SOMEBODY.

My homosexual posting I think was a complete waste of time, as "sniff me" wrote--the intellectual giant that she is, "you talk to much". What I find on most of these chat boards is the lowest intellegence denominator is usually the loudest and most prevelent. People are not interested in reading Economist articles, they want to make connections with people, often because those connections are lacking in their own lifes--you don't come to these web boards to learn it seems, you come to be heard and socialize....
Although, some of the open minded comments on misfitmormon were very insightful, on second thought....

"I am confused sometimes from what you say and what you do. You told one of the individuals that you are done with the Church, yet have had some great interactions with [info]misfitmormon. Is it because the people of that group are questioning as you once did and can relate?"

Yep, it is a contradiction. I know. Dont have a good answer--I just had some thoughts about being "open minded" and thought I could share.

"I can not moderate your journal. Nor do I hope to. If you want to post anti then you can."
No, I dont want to post anti--I really dont care much about it. I guess what I mean is the mormon church used to be central in my life and now it isn't at all--I rarely think about it...

"I just am lost on your logic on why you continue to participate if you are already gone from it."
As I mentioned...I just had some thoughts I wanted to share--I will always have roots in mormonism. Most of my life was in mormonism, and no matter where I go, it will be a part of me.

If you dont want me to post anymore on misfitmormon I wont.
No prob, no hard feelings.

I am impressed with what you are doing and the little collection of self-proclaimed misfits you have brought together.

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[info]thecause
2004-12-08 12:14 pm UTC (link)
I am not trying to drive you away from the group. You have done a lot in getting people to think. I think a lot of those people do want to think beyond personal relationships, to knowledge. I just was curious why many people that leave the church choose to come back to the church in some way. It has really gotten me puzzled in my life.
As far as my personal journal--yes it is troubling, but ultimately I can only do something for me.

Thanks for your support though.

Peace.

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Because the church is true Cory!
[info]bailey83221
2004-12-08 01:06 pm UTC (link)
"I just was curious why many people that leave the church choose to come back to the church in some way. "

Because the church is true Cory!

I think that is one of our relatives logic (but then again anything in their mind, points to the church being true)

Actually, the church is much more than a religion, it is a life style a culture. So of course people will gravitate back to their roots--converts, on the other hand--who later leave the church--are probably much less likely to gravitate back

The older I get, and the longer it has been since I was a member, (Actually I still am offically a member) the magnetic force pulling me to the church lessons--

I think that is a healthy thing in my case, because I dont agree with the mentality of most members, it really distrurbs me actually. Happier without those type of people in my life.

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Re: Because the church is true Cory!
[info]thecause
2004-12-09 01:39 pm UTC (link)
Love, faith, hope are all abstract ideas that can be logically disassembled as falsehoods. Any emotion can fail to the strongholds of truth. I realize you live by truth, but by abandoning some statations I think you rob yourself of emotions. I suppose this is why I am still here and you are there. You base it more on facts. I base it more on feelings. Different perspectives.

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Re: Because the church is true Cory!
[info]thecause
2004-12-09 01:40 pm UTC (link)
*stations even.:) watch for typos indeed.

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[info]emmapeel
2004-12-16 10:51 am UTC (link)
I just read your comments in the whole gay "discussion" in misfitmormon. I thought you might appreciate this article: http://www.apa.org/pubinfo/answers.html#mentalillness

(I'd post it in misfit, but I'm sure there'd be a huge debate over it. My brother even said the information was outdated and wrong. ::: sigh :::
There's no getting through to my family... on ANY level. Be glad you can talk to your brother about religion and not get into a huge "I'm right, you're wrong, so shut up" fight.)

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